This guide is intended to serve as suggested behavior for a born again believer attending the occasional funeral, wedding or other masses as part of celebrating a family event that includes Catholic mass. The responses suggested are intended to show respect yet not compromise biblical truth.

The Order of Mass

This is the official English text of the Order of Mass.

C. = Celebrant P. = People + = People make the sign of the Cross

The Introductory Rite

C. In the name of the Father, + and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. P. Amen. (Here is where the Catholic “Sign of the Cross” is made. May not be a good idea to do. Could give a false signal that you are in union with Catholicism. This sign is the most common Catholic symbol around the world)

The Greeting

One of the following formulas is used:

1. C. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.

P. And also with you. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

2. C. The grace and peace of God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

P. Blessed be God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Or: and also with you. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

3. C. The Lord be with you.

P. and also with you.

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Act of Penance

(Penance is a duty to perform some act(s) to eliminate or reduce the penalty of sin. Penance was never a requirement in the Bible.)

One of the following formulas is used:

1. C. My brothers or sisters (or similar wording), to prepare ourselves to celebrate the sacred mysteries, (Eucharist) let us call to mind our sins.

(Listen and observe only)

(Pause.)

P. I confess to almighty God, and to you, my brothers and sisters, that I have sinned through my own fault (all strike their breast) in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done, and in what I have failed to do; (Unobjectionable to join in response to this point) and I ask blessed Mary, ever virgin, all the angels and saints, (unacceptable to respond) and you, my brothers and sisters, to pray for me to the Lord our God. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

2. C. My brothers or sisters (or similar wording), to prepare ourselves to celebrate the sacred mysteries, (this refers to the Eucharist) let us call to mind our sins.

After a pause the Celebrant continues:

Lord, we have sinned against you:

P. Lord, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Lord, show us your mercy and love.

P. And grant us your salvation. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

3.C. My brothers or sisters (or similar wording), to prepare ourselves to celebrate the sacred mysteries (Eucharist) (unacceptable to join in response), let us call to mind our sins.

After a pause the Celebrant continues:

You were sent to heal the contrite:

P. Lord, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. You came to call sinners:

P. Christ, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. You plead for us at the right hand of the Father: Lord, have mercy.

P. Lord, have mercy (Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Act of Penance is followed by the Absolution. (Priest power to remove sin)

C. May almighty God have mercy on us, forgive us our sins, and bring us to everlasting life.

P. Amen. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Kyrie follows if it has not already been included in one of the Acts of Penance. (Unacceptable to respond)

C. Lord, have mercy.

P. Lord, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Christ, have mercy.

P. Christ, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Lord, have mercy.

P. Lord, have mercy. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

If it is to be said, the Gloria now follows:

Glory to God in the highest, and peace to his people on earth. Lord God, heavenly King, almighty God and Father, we worship you, we give you thanks, we praise you for your glory. Lord Jesus Christ, only Son of the

Father, Lord God, Lamb of God, you take away the sin of the world: have mercy on us; you are seated at the right hand of the Father: receive our prayer. For you alone are the Holy One, you alone are the Lord, you alone are the Most High, Jesus Christ, with the Holy Spirit, in the glory of God the Father. Amen.

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Let us pray.

The Liturgy of the Word

(Attention should be in order here because oftentimes these readings are from uninspired books of the Bible called the apocrypha books that Catholics approves).

At the conclusion of the Readings the Lector says:

This is the word of the Lord.

P. Thanks be to God. (Unobjectionable to respond if from canonical (inspired) book.)

After the first Reading the Responsorial Psalm is recited

or sung. The people join in the repeated response.

If it is to be said, the Alleluia precedes the Gospel.

 

Gospel

At the beginning of the Gospel:

C. The Lord be with you.

P. And also with you. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. A reading + from the holy Gospel according to (Matthew, Mark, Luke or John).

P. Glory to You O Lord. At the conclusion of the Gospel:

C. This is the Gospel of the Lord. (Unobjectionable to respond if from canonical (inspired) book.)

P. Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

The celebrant may now say the Homily (Short Sermon).

If it is to be said, the Creed now follows:

The Creed

(Encouraged to join in)

We believe in one God, the Father, the Almighty, maker of heaven and earth, of all that is, seen and unseen. We believe in one Lord, Jesus Christ, the only Son of God, eternally begotten of the Father, God from God, Light from Light, true God from true God, begotten, not made, of one Being with the Father. Through him all things were made. For us men and for our salvation he came down from heaven: (all bow) by the power of the Holy Spirit he became incarnate from the Virgin Mary, and was made man. For our sake he was crucified under Pontius Pilate; he suffered death and was buried. On the third day he rose again in accordance with the Scriptures; he ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the Father.

He will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead,

and his kingdom will have no end.

We believe in the Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life,

Who proceeds from the Father and the Son. With the Father and the Son he is worshiped and glorified. He has spoken through the Prophets. We believe in one holy catholic and apostolic Church. We acknowledge one baptism for the forgiveness of sins. We look for the resurrection of the dead, and the life of the world to come. Amen

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Bidding Prayers now follow. At the end of each intercession one of the following formulas is used:

1. C. Lord, in your mercy,

P. Hear our prayer.

2. C. Lord, hear us. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

P. Lord, graciously hear us. (Pay attention to the request being prayed for respond only if you concur)

 

The Liturgy of the Eucharist

(This part of the Mass is the core of Catholic worship. It involves an unbiblical position on the Lord’s Supper and therefore is unacceptable to participate in. Catholic teaching reminds non-Catholics not to participate as well)

The Offertory Antiphon may be sung as the gifts are brought to the altar.

C. Blessed are you, Lord, God of all creation. Through your goodness we have this bread to offer, which earth has given and human hands have made. It will become for us the bread of life. (Unacceptable to join in response),

P. Blessed be God forever. (Omitted if singing is in progress.)

C. Blessed are you, Lord, God of all creation. Through your goodness we have this wine to offer, fruit of the vine and work of human hands. It will become our spiritual drink. (Unacceptable to join in response),

P. Blessed be God forever. (Omitted if singing is in progress.)

After washing his hands the Celebrant says:

Pray, my brothers and sisters, that my sacrifice and yours may be acceptable to God, the almighty Father (or similar wording).

P. May the Lord accept the sacrifice at your hands for the praise and glory of his name, for our good, and the good of all his Church. (Unacceptable to join in response),

The Celebrant then reads the Prayer over the Gifts, at the end of which:

P. Amen

The Eucharistic Prayer

C. The Lord be with you.

P. And also with you. . (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Lift up your hearts.

P. We lift them up to the Lord. . (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.

P. It is right to give him thanks and praise. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Celebrant then reads the Preface, at the end of which the people join with him saying the Sanctus:. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might,

Heaven and earth are full of your glory.

Hosanna in the highest. Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest. After the Consecration:

C. Let us proclaim the mystery of faith.

The people proclaim in one of the following formulas: (Unobjectionable to join in response)

1. Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again.

2. Dying you destroyed our death rising you restored our life. Lord Jesus, come in glory.

3. When we eat this bread and drink this cup, we proclaim your death, Lord Jesus, until you come in glory.

4. Lord, by your cross and resurrection, you have set us free. You are the Savior of the world.

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

At the end of the Eucharistic Prayer the Celebrant says the Doxology:

Through him, with him, in him, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, all glory and honor is yours, almighty Father, forever and ever.

P. Amen

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Communion Rite

C. Let us pray with confidence to the Father in the words our Savior gave us (or similar wording): (Unobjectionable to join in response)

P. Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

(Encouraged to join in response)

C. Deliver us, Lord, from every evil, and grant us peace in our day. In your mercy keep us free from sin and protect us from all anxiety as we wait in joyful hope for the coming of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

P. For the kingdom, the power, and the glory are yours, now and forever. .

(Encouraged to join in response)

C. Lord Jesus Christ, you said to your apostles: I leave you peace, my peace I give you. Look not on our sins, but on the faith of your Church, and grant us the peace and unity of your kingdom where you live forever and ever.

P. Amen. . (Unobjectionable to join in response)

C. The peace of the Lord be with you always.

P. And also with you. . (Unobjectionable to join in response)

The people may now exchange a sign of peace, according to local custom.

While the Host is broken, the people say: (Unobjectionable to join in response)

Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world: have mercy on us. Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world: have mercy on us. Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world: grant us peace.

(Unobjectionable to join in response)

The Celebrant turns to the communicants and holding up the sacred Host says:

This is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. Happy are those who are called to his supper. . (Unacceptable to join in response),

P. Lord, I am not worthy to receive you, but only say the word and I shall be healed. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

Communion

(You are urged not to partake in this communion because the Bible does not support transubstantiation and official Catholic teaching strongly discourages those who do not believe in transubstantiation and are not in communion with Catholic beliefs not to partake as well Being that the view of the Lord’s Supper is not an essential of faith you have liberty here. Partaking may however send confusing signals to family members.)

Communion Minister: The Body of Christ. Communicant: Amen. Communion Minister: The Blood of Christ. Communicant: Amen.

The distribution of the sacred Blood to the people may be omitted, according to local custom.

C. Let us pray.

At the end of the Post-communion Prayer:

P. Amen.

The Concluding Rite

C. The Lord be with you.

P. And also with you.

C. May almighty God bless you, the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. (Unobjectionable to join in response)

P. Amen. The Celebrant dismisses the people with one of the following formulas:

1. Go in the peace of Christ.

2. The Mass is ended, go in peace.

3. Go in peace to love and serve the Lord.

P. Thanks be to God.

* One final suggestion. Catholic Conversations takes the position that the best body position to maintain at Mass is to usually remain seated. Standing when the Word is read is always encouraged and usually in order when songs are sung, and always when the greeting takes place. We discourage kneeling specially during the Eucharist parts of the Mass.